Every where you go.

Well, I just closed another chapter in my life. It was a small chapter, actually a sub chapter really. Maybe even a footnote. But an interesting one none the less. And I must warn you. I think that I may be about to wax poetical or something like that. Not to be confused with political. Heavens no. Sorry, folks. I just don't know enough about politics to write political poems. But sometimes I do feel something, and so I do write poems. But I won't. Don't worry. I have not been afflicted with the J.R.R. Tolkein need to stick random (some would say bad) poems in my writing...yet.

The cat had lunch upon the fence.
a feline meal of meat and fish.
Its metal goblet filled with dairy.
To dine a feast with no companions hairy.

Ok, ok. So I threw in a completely random poem. But I promise that I will get to the point o this blog.

I finished up the play and now I have time to write, or do something else. But being a college student in a play can be a lonely thing. Especially when you have a family. All the cast members had numberless concourses of roommates, and friends from the area who came to visit and then after the show they all went out and talked about the show or whatever else they wanted. That's a level of interaction that a married individual misses out on. No matter what I do, I will never be a part of the cast as they are.

But on the other hand. They don't get to go home to a wonderful family. So, I guess I come out on top after all.

Eat this Mr. Fettuccini!

Well, I have made a most disturbing discovery. As of late, my blog titles have been more than appropriate for my blogs. I have actually been tying them in so that they make sense. In fact some of them have almost been good title. Well, no more of that. I can't have a blog called "Bad at titles" (which may be the best title I have ever made up) if I start using good titles. So, it's over!

Now on to something completely different.

I saw a book recently on relationships. The title was (actually I guess it still is) "Strangling your husband is not an option." or something close to that. And you know what? I can't begin to verbalize how this frustrates me. So I'll write it down. (actually, I should have used the word vocalize because I guess I am verbalizing it.)

Anyway. I guess what ticks me the wrong way most is this. That's a terrible title (although it is true. Not only is strangling illegal, it would not at all be conducive to a continuing relationship for what I hope are obvious reasons.) Because it reflects the current popular view of husbands, fathers, and men in general.

The popular culture's view of men is as follows: (that's air force talk) Men are either stupid, insensitive, lazy, layabout, and more of a burden than a boon in a relationship, or they are Stupid, insensitive, work-aholics who don't contribute emotionally to a functional healthy relationship. The mother/wife figure does everything, and men can go sink themselves on the good ship Lollypop if they want because no one would really know or care if they were gone. Men are a trial not a functioning or necessary part of society.

There is no middle ground. Look around you. Are men really like that? Do we drag you women down to hell and back with no logical reason? Are we a necessary evil? Because if that's the case then I say Screw all the effort that I put into trying to be a good husband, father, employee, and contributing member of society. It looks a lot easier to avoid responsibilities and family pressure.

Well, now that that's out there, I hope someone will respond.

And I also need to say this. I guess women have had the rough spot in popular culture for a while, so maybe it's mens' turn.

Here's to all the real men who are actually trying to make a difference in the world and their families.

And Here's to my oldest brother who is one of those men. He leads the way for the good guys. Happy birthday Bro!